Regrets

So when my parents died 10 years apart, as their daughter I could say they had no regrets, they lived a good life.  Of course knowing that there were rough times for them through the years raising 4 children, money was tight, Dad was not always happy with his job.  But from my perspective, they were living a wonderful life.  They loved each other and their family, they knew how to have fun, and how to enjoy being quiet together. I am at peace with this, they had no regrets that we were ever told.
On the other hand, I wish I could say the same, life has been hard, also happy at times and I love my husband and children, and through the years you are more than happy to put your needs aside, put your feelings deep inside hoping they will never rise to the top. But I am sure now that that is a big mistake, you should always address your feelings and the things you need and want because if you don't you are just piling up the regrets, and after years pass those regrets get very heavy. It becomes something that you have to work on all the time, something that consumes you at times.  So if I could give advice that I was sure would be taken, I would say, pay attention to your regrets as soon as you feel them, or don't allow them to happen.  You are the only one that knows your true feelings, honor them. I will from now on.